Ok . . . 3rd Grade it is!! 
First let me just say - by way of encouragement - that what you're trying to do is pretty basic. It only looks complex to you because you've never done it before. With a little hands-on experience, you will get more comfortable working in Access.
There are free Tutorials on line on YouTube that are very helpful to get you started. You can follow along and you'll find that you will soon get comfortable working in the environment and you'll start getting adventurous!! Fear not! 
Ok . . . enough blather . . .
Here's what you need to do - in Summary:
1. If you don't already have a Form based on your Table, you will have to create a Form.
If your Table does not have a field to record if the PartNumber file exists - you should add a new field to the Form & call it, for example, 'HasFile' - and give it a Yes/No data type.
2. When a New record is displayed on your Form, you want to tell Access to:
3. Read the value [text] that is in the text box that is displaying your PartNumber.
4. Execute some code that will search your network or pc directory [folder] for a file that bears the same name as your PartNumber.
5. If it finds such a file in that folder - turn the CheckBox on your Form 'on' [set it to checked . . or 'True'].
Now - assuming you have the Form set up and the 'HasFile' field in your Table - I'll start at Step 2.:
Step 2.
a. When a new record is displayed on your Form an 'Event' named 'On Current' happens behind the scenes.
b. Open your Form, go to the Property Sheet for the Form, click the Event Tab, and click in the 'On Current' row.
c. Click the [...] button to the right of the row & select 'Code Builder'.
You are now IN the 'On Current' Event Code page and you can 'tell' Access what to do when it executes that event.
You will see something like this:
Code:
Private Sub Form_Current()
End Sub
Steps 3, 4, 5. Read the value in the PartNumber field on the Form and all the rest:
a. In the space between the two lines of Code in the Code Editor paste in this VBA Code:
Code:
Dim strPartNumber As String, strPath As String, strFile As String, strPathFile As String
strPath = \\Type\In\Your\Path\Here\
Me.PartNumber.SetFocus
strPartNumber = Me.PartNumber.Text 'This assumes your Part Number field is named 'PartNumber'.
strFile = strPartNumber & ".txt" 'Put the correct file extension in where I put ".txt"
strPathFile = strPath & strFile
If FileExists(strPathFile) Then
Me.HasFile.SetFocus 'This assumes that your check box on the Form is named 'HasFile'
Me.HasFile.Value = True
End If
. . . and that is pretty much it.
Substitute the correct values for the Path, and the file extension [I used .txt] and run the Form.
I'm not sure exactly what your file names look like.
If they match your PartNumbers exactly - then nothing further to do. Otherwise, give me more detail and we'll get that part taken care of as well.
If your file names don't EXACTLY match your PartNumbers then it might be a good idea to create a test file that is named for an exact PartNumber.
Maybe put it in a separate directory while testing . . . and modify the strPath value in your code.
Then - when that part works fine - we can tackle how to approach partial matches.
I hope this helps!!