I got it! 






Code:
SELECT *
FROM uniform_assignments INNER JOIN [Band Addresses] ON uniform_assignments.studentID = [Band Addresses].StudentID
WHERE (((uniform_assignments.[Date Assigned]) Is Not Null) AND ((uniform_assignments.[Date Returned]) Is Null));
Code:
SELECT Uniforms.[Part Description], Uniforms.size, Uniforms.[Part Number], [Band Addresses].[Last Name], [Band Addresses].[First Name]
FROM Uniforms, uniforms_helper_all, Uniforms LEFT JOIN uniforms_helper_all ON Uniforms.uniformID = uniform_assignments.uniformID
ORDER BY Uniforms.[Part Description], Uniforms.[Part Number], Uniforms.size;
I didn't understand the two query thing until I figured out I actually had to make two query objects and treat the helper like a table. then it made sense.
Access is a bit weird about FORCING the query to include all the table/query names in the second query with the JOIN statement after (with the comma). and if you save the query and re-open it they disappear causing an error. You have to retype them in again in order to make any edits.
anyways - thanks everyone for your help!