You can add code to the After Update event of your first field (go into the Properties of that field, go to the Events tab, select "After Update", pick Event Procedure. This should set up the "shell" for the code you need, and then just place your VBA code in between. It should look something like this:
Code:
Private Sub SexField_AfterUpdate()
If Me.SexField="Male" Then
Me.FeeField="N/A"
Me.FeeField.Enabled=False
Else
Me.FeeField.Enabled=True
End If
End Sub
BTW, if your FeeField is formatted as a numeric field, you aren't going to be able to enter a text value like "N/A" in it! So you may need to change the format, or change what you put in it (maybe leave it as Null).