You use single Main form (meetings form)- continuous subform (ActMemAtt form) design. The control based on field amaStatus in subform will be combobox. OnChange event of Main form checks for new record, and when a new meeting is registered in Main form, it adds a record for every active member into tlActMemAtt with amaStaus = 1;
When the user cancels attendance, and this is allowed, the attendance status is set to "Canceled" (i.e. 0) in subform. When canceling is not allowed, it is reset to "Attended" (i.e. 1), or is set to "Missed" (i.e. 2) - as you prefer;
After meeting you set attendance status - for all members with amaStatus = 1 who didn't attend the meeting - to "Missed" (i.e. 2).
It would be a good idea to have in meetings table a field for meeting status (0 - unlocked, 1 - locked). When meeting status is set to locked - at least for subform - editing, adding and deleting records will be restricted.
You can use filter property of subform to list only records with amaStatus IN (1,2), and refresh the subform using subforms OnChange event.